The last month has had its ups & downs for David and although it seems as if there are 2 steps forward and often 3 steps backwards, he doesn’t stop fighting – he does not give up. He is a fighter!
I am grateful for the time that I have been by his side over the last 10-1/2 months. During this time I have learned so much about myself and what we are all capable of when something difficult and traumatizing happens to someone we care about. Hardships come in so many ways and although many of you have no knowledge of my life before December 2nd 2017. I can say that the last 7 years has been the most challenging years of my life. Some of you may know a few of the things that have happened in my life, but David knows them all. We became friends a little over four years ago and never could I have imagined that our friendship would result in this journey. To be by his side in Singapore, Chicago and then Omaha is something only God could have orchestrated. I had to constantly surrender to HIS will and keep walking towards the doors that opened ahead of me.
Instead of writing about the accident that forever changed David’s life and of his family, I want to tell you about who David is.
David is patient, kind and loving. He always listens and is first to step up when a friend needs him. When something tragic or difficult in life happens to someone he loves and cares for – he doesn’t stop and just say words – he springs in to action.
I’ve seen David walk the streets in Alameda and then seeing a young man walk barefoot – he stopped and asked what had happened and the young man talks, as David patiently listens. He then takes off his shoes and gives them to the young man and walks along the road to his car barefoot.
This is David!
He is learning patience beyond my understanding and when I ask him if he ever feels like giving up, his answer is “every day”.
We all are full of faults and failures, we all make mistakes, we all hurt others and we get hurt. We all need grace in our lives. How we choose to give & receive grace is up to each one of us. We can hold on to the mistakes or we can forgive and extend the love that is in us – if we choose to do so.
My time by David’s side has come to an end here in Omaha, Nebraska. Tomorrow I head back to California to be closer to my dad that is 90 and failing. I can’t forget that I came to America a long time ago to take care of my dad as he had a stroke in which he was not recovering from. My choice changed my life and was not part of my plan. What we want and what we get are not always of our choosing. Never did I regret my choice – although I truly miss my brothers and my family in Norway. I left one of the best jobs I could have ever wished for and singing possibilities that had started to happen. What I received by taking that leap so many years ago, lead me to the privilege of giving life to my Son Victor. The roads are unknown but we have to be willing to take chances and go where our hearts and the Holy Spirit lead us. There is no guarantee that there will not be pain on the road we choose – it is part of life.
I don’t know how long my father will keep going, but my responsibility is for my father as I took on that duty when he needed me once before– it is a difficult choice, but I know it is the right one.
While it is heartbreaking to say goodbye to David, it is necessary.
However, before I buckle down again in the Bay Area, I will be heading to S/E Asia on the 25th to be with the women and children that I love very much. They teach me what true Faith looks like and I am privileged to be with them again. I know that the emptiness I feel inside will be filled from the love that comes from all those that will be with me and those that I will be reunited with.
I will be traveling with a team from Hillside Covenant Church along with my son and Nathali, his fiancé. When the team leaves back to CA I will head to Cambodia to learn about the work that Flame is doing in the slums with children that have nothing – nothing but Faith, Hope and the will to survive. After Cambodia I head to Yangon, Myanmar were I hope to gain knowledge of how to help understand the political, social & justice situation in that country. I will be meeting with the embassies as well as businesses to see what we can agree on and work together for a better future for the women and children in that country.
Words without action mean nothing.
David has the heart for the same things I do and he is happy that I continue to go where God is leading me – may God do the same for you.
David will be praying for me & I will continue to pray for him and his family. What you can do for him, is to send him letters and cards through mail. He will not have availability to see emails and it feels so much better for him to hold something in his hand that came from you. That is Love!
David J. Nederhood
c/o QLI – House 1
6321 N. 70th Plaza
Omaha, NE 68104
David now has a CD player & headphones so that he can listen to audio books and music. It would be wonderful if you could send him a book and/or music CD’s that you think he would like.
David loves his children, his mother & father and his champion sisters and their families. They have all worked tirelessly to help David and continue without seizing. They need your help and prayers to continue to find strength to be by his side in the time ahead. Please pray for them!
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, "Go in peace; keep warm and well fed," but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, "You have faith; I have deeds." Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. James 2:14-18
If you would like to follow along on my journey – I will be writing about my journey here on this blog.
There is an enormous need for men and women who know the heart of God, a heart that forgives, cares, reaches out and wants to heal & help those in the world that live with deep loneliness and despair.
If we can live in the way of giving simple love and help, I can tell you there are no suspicions, no resentment or vindictiveness and no hatred. What a heart wants is to give love and receive love in return. A heart will suffer tremendously when it sees the human pain of resisting the love and heart of God. Let us begin with those around us and reach out a hand of kindness.
Wenche Miriam ~~~